So rudeness is defined as discourteous or impolite, especially in a deliberate way. Check. It is also defined as rough in manners or behavior; unmannerly; uncouth. Check.
I know this person for a long time now, there were even time when we would hang out together. Actually, I don't prefer hanging out with her, she just gets on my nerve. It seems like hanging out with a teenager who has a crush on someone. No, it wasn't me. She has a huge crush on a common friend. I don't even think that crush is the right word, she seems obsessed. The guy is already married, I would like to tell her.. you've got to give up you know. Or maybe, I think it's time to move on. But she never admits to this obsession even when everyone knows about it and I even heard some people talking about it.
To make the story short, she seems to be jealous when I'm talking to this guy. She's making it seem like a competition. If I could ask her, "Am I acting like you, following him all around and everything?" One time she texted me reminding me how he heard the guy said that he would usually look for me at events where he thought I'd be there. I guess I wouldn't think any of it except that I've known her for making side comments or just trying to open a conversation about this guy. So I was like.. "here we go again.." I mean, true, the guy said that but he was just saying that as a form of compliment. The guy was sort of one of the "hosts" of that event and I guess he was just trying to flatter me and thank me at the same time. It's just that it registered on that girl's mind. I was thinking... so she feels bad that the guy said that to me and not to her? She's been AWOL for some time. It's not as if I've been to all the events, but I've been present every now and then. It's safe to say that somehow this guy and I see each other on a more regular basis than her.
Just a few weeks after that there was another event and she asked me if she could get a ride with me going to that event. I desperately wanted to say no. (Maybe I'm too nice?) The problem is that I don't think she'd want me in that event without her, it's like I would be getting an advantage. If I told her no and she went there anyway, I think she would definitely blurt out in front of the guy that she was trying to get a ride with me and I wouldn't answer her. I would be the bad guy then. So she got a ride with me and while at the event, she asked me if she could use my phone because she's also on prepaid and she doesn't have any credits left. I was nice enough again to let her use my phone. After the event, this guy and I talked. I didn't even look for the guy, I just realized one time that he was just there and of course we had to say something to each other. And again, that girl had to say something about the guy spending some time with me, even for putting his arm on my shoulders when we were talking. The guy and I just didn't say anything. What was with her? When another guy friend hugged me and she was there, I wanted to tell her, "what? no comments? You had a lot to say when (the guy) and I were talking!" She asked to use my phone before we left the event. And I let her. Again! When will I learn. But for some reason I had a bad feeling again. It only took her a short while to use my phone. When I saw her end the call, I went to her to get my phone and I guess she was surprised I was there. She asked me how she can erase the call history but I told her I also don't know and to just leave it. It's not as if I would call their home number and that it will just automatically be erased. All the while she was riding with me, she kept asking for me phone, asking if she could "call" again. All that time! I told her I was expecting an important call so I never gave her my phone to use again. When I got home I checked the dialed numbers and saw the guy's name. Right about that time before we left the event and she borrowed my phone. Besides, I never called the guy so I knew it was really her. I just don't know if the guy was able to answer the call. Hopefully, he missed the call. I don't want him to wonder if I let the girl use my phone to call him.
Update:
As I was checking my phone registry again, I found out that there are more than 1 signs for a dialed number. I think the other one is dialed and the other is dialed and answered. The first one is just a phone and an arrow pointing outwards, the latter is a phone, an arrow pointing towards another phone. So I'm guessing the latter means the guy answered the call. Darn it. Still, the guy hasn't mentioned anything to me. I just hope that my phone has a call duration record.
